Ways to Destress from Wedding Planning

Are you in fully immersed in that wedding planning grind? Do you feel like it’s a full time job? 

Take a break from those Excel  spreadsheets and step away from all those invitations that need stamped. You need some R+R, and here’s the good news: you don’t need to have a million bucks to feel like a million bucks.

Here are some inexpensive ways to de-stress on a budget!

Pamper Yourself

Though booking a facial may sound great, it may not be in the budget in the midst of wedding planning. Lucky for you, there’s some great face masks that you can do at home! This one is one of my favorites. The Aztec Secret Indian Healing Clay was a staple in my wedding planning months! The calcium bentonite clay draws out all the gunk in your pores, giving you a real nice, clean face! It’s great mixed with water, but you can add a bit of apple cider vinegar to clear stress-induced breakouts and achieve that bridal glow. 

As with all skin products, make sure to test this on your skin  before slathering all over your face to make sure you don’t have any adverse reactions to it. Also, this mask can dry your face out, so make sure to moisturize! And finally, don’t introduce any new skincare products in the week or so leading up to your wedding as a precaution.

Take A Sip:

There’s nothing like sitting on the porch during these hot summer days with a cold glass of iced coffee. I enjoy going to a coffee place now and again, but I have found such a great way to make coffee at home for a fraction of the cost! This has changed my home coffee game. My hand frother is probably my most used kitchen tool because I love it so much! I add a bit of flavored syrup (I get them at Marshalls or TJ Maxx because they are usually less than $5) and add some milk. My go-to is oat milk or almond, but you do you, and froth it up! Next, pour in your iced coffee and add some ice. It’s delicious, super easy, and has that nice froth that I get from the coffee shop — all without changing out of my pajamas and leaving the house. 

Bring In The Wedding Crew:

Remember all those people that you asked to ring in the big day? They’re here to help! Whether you’re stuffing all your wedding invitations or putting together welcome bags for your out of town guests, they’ve got this! Invite over some of your close friends, get some bottles of wine, and plan together! Catch up with your friends, tell each other stories, watch the new movie you’ve been dying to see, and enjoy each other’s  company while getting stuff done!

Remember Why You’re Doing This:

Between deciding how you’re going to display your table numbers and what white to choose for your table linens, the real reason why you’re getting married can get lost. Take a minute. Take 5 minutes. Honestly, take a day and relax with your partner-to-be. Remember all the love you have for one another and all that life has in store for you. Yes, your planning may be stressful, but your love is number one! In 10 years, you probably won’t remember what white table linen you chose for your reception, but you will definitely remember all the feels you have for your significant other!

photography by Sanchez Studio

photography by Sanchez Studio

You're Engaged: Now What?

You just got engaged to the person of your dreams! CONGRATULATIONS!! There’s a million and one details to plan, but where do you start? I drafted up a short list to help you get started without getting overwhelmed. It’s easy to get caught up in all the excitement but remember: enjoy this beautiful time now.

Photography by Kristin Vermilya

Photography by Kristin Vermilya

Let All Your Inner Circle Know

This is such an exciting time for the two of you! Before posting the big news on social media, make sure to take some time and share it with the people that mean the most to you. Though it would be great to tell them in person, over the phone works too. After you’ve let your besties, parents, siblings, and all the other people in your inner circle know, go share it with your 500+ facebook friends and Insta followers so you can celebrate with them too.

Pick A Season

Picking a season is your first step in locking down a date! Do your wedding dreams include kissing under a snowfall? Or does it include beautiful red hues of the fall trees? Chat about it with your partner to see what suits you two best!

Hire A Planner

Though you can hire a wedding planner at any point during your planning process, hiring one sooner is always better! They’ve got tips and tricks up their sleeve that can make the whole process less stressful, so why not use their expertise?

Draft Your Wedding Party

Photography by Kristin Vermilya

Photography by Kristin Vermilya

Pick the people you want to celebrate every step of the wedding with. You do not have to choose right away — in fact, do not choose right away. Take some time to think about who the most important people are and who would enjoy being there with you. If you have a friend who hates weddings, hates making plans, and hates group activities, maybe think about not having them stand by your side. Some of the people who love you aren’t into the responsibilities that come with being in a wedding party — and that’s OK. Involve them as much as they want to be involved in an unofficial capacity. That way, everybody wins.

Enjoy the Time

So many couples get bogged down with wedding planning the minute they get engaged.That’s rough — particularly if your partner isn’t as pumped about vision boards and color stories as you are. You got months to decide what shade of white you want for your wedding flowers. Enjoy the time you have together, and if need be, limit talk of the wedding during date night. Instead, just pop a bottle of champagne and relax with your new fiancé!

How to Stay Sane As A DIY Bride


This one is for you.

According to Martha Stewart Weddings, couples working without a wedding planner will spend 200-300 hours on their wedding. During a 9-month engagement, that could be 30 hours a month! Hello, new part-time job!

As a DIY Bride, I wanted to make sure that I had enough time to do all my crafts without the stress of getting them done last minute, while juggling my full time job.

The Happy 2019 12 Month Mini Planner Adventures Jan 2019 - Dec 2019

The Happy 2019 12 Month Mini Planner Adventures Jan 2019 - Dec 2019

While I was planning my wedding, my planner was my most prized possession. I took it everywhere with me -- to work, restaurants, coffee shops, bars… seriously, I just put it in my backpack, and it kept me SANE.

This is the planner that I used, but I’m sure that all others will do the trick just fine.

Once you have your planner,  it’s time to create a timeline. This will probably seem intimidating at first because there are so many decisions to make ahead of your big day (not to mention booking things far enough in advance, keeping up with vendor communications, gathering the supplies for all the things you have to DIY — ugh. Exhausting.)

But I wouldn’t leave you hanging! Here’s a month-by-month breakdown that I recommend for the 10 months before your wedding.

As with accomplishing any big goal, breaking things up is key. Create weekly and even daily goals with your big goals in mind. This will help ensure you’re spreading out the work and can enjoy the last weeks before your wedding without much stress.

Side note: The venue was booked through a catering company, so I did not have to look for a caterer. My partners family did all the prep and planning for the rehearsal dinner, so there is very little dinner planning on my timeline.

Side note: The venue was booked through a catering company, so I did not have to look for a caterer. My partners family did all the prep and planning for the rehearsal dinner, so there is very little dinner planning on my timeline.

Keep in mind that this schedule is just a starting point! If you’re not planning on making your own invitations, floral arrangements, favors, etc., then feel free to omit. Plus, there’s no shame in hiring professionals to help your wedding vision come to life. Check out some of the services I offer that won’t break the bank.